Saturday, February 25, 2012

Your Call

Choose to be strong and transform...
There is a fragile moment between the time you face an unforeseen life event and when you decide how you are going to move forward.

Whether it is experiencing the death of a parent at a young age, getting cut from a team's roster, going through a divorce, being laid off from your first real job, or receiving a cancer diagnosis, this moment can be raw, unnerving, and just plain uncomfortable. And here's why:

The future you were heading towards no longer exists.

Unfortunately, in this moment some people decide to hold onto the previous vision of their future and end up in a prolonged funk thinking about what might have been. With nothing left to live for these people will often make decisions that go against the same values they held prior to this defining moment. They may even search for ways to numb their feelings with drugs, alcohol, or other abusive behaviors and spiral further away from leading full lives.

But it doesn't have to be this way.

This moment can be harnessed to reset the vision of what you want to get out of your life and be used to propel you into a future with more personal accomplishment that you could have ever predicted. Once you accept that the previous vision of your future will never be the same, you will be ready to move on in a constructive manner.

You can make the hard choices that escaped you in the past...

You can stand up for what you believe instead of staying seated...

You can start doing the things you always wanted to do that were being stifled by the old future you were moving towards...

And here is the kicker:

You are no longer concerned about the future you are heading towards because you know it could be gone in an instant.

Instead of living in the future or in the past, you are living in the moment making decisions based on what's most important for you and those you care about most.

Speaking from personal experience, prior to my cancer diagnosis I was chasing someone else's dream of what a future was supposed to look like based on what my peers, classmates, and society in general dictated. Shortly after my diagnosis, after a walk with my Mom through a forest preserve near my house, I decided that I was going to use my cancer journey to learn as much as possible about myself and transform my life into one that was in line with my values and beliefs.

And man is it awesome.

Unforeseen life events can be devastating or they can be transformational.

It's your call.

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