|Getting chemo, listening to tunes...|
Cue the smiles, the relief, the thankfulness, the hugs, the celebratory meal at the overpriced lunch place next to my oncologist’s office with my hot wife...
If you can cue it, and it is positive, I am sure we did it.
There were previous times in my life where I thought I had it all like when I won a golf tournament in my youth or when I realized I was smart in college (post HERE). There is truly nothing like having a new lease on life. Even if it was temporary remission, I was - and am - going to make the most of it.
Song #6 on Roger’s Cancer Journey Mixed Tape is an anthem to live by no matter what your circumstances.
Artist: One Republic (Link)
Song: Good Life
Album: Waking Up
A good friend of mine (Luke Westra) turned me on to this song the day after my “you-are-in-remission” appointment with my oncologist. Luke and my relationship got off to a stellar start playing Hootie and the Blowfish covers back in our dorm rooms freshman year in college and we have shared similar musical taste ever since. Needless to say, the song struck a chord with me immediately with the chorus:
This has got to be the good life, this has got to be the good life
This could really be good life, good life
Got this feeling that you can’t fight, like this city is on fire tonight
This could really be a good life
A good, good life
Through my cancer experience I became more and more aware of how I interacted with life. Never before had coffee taste so good as it did after my chemo hangover wore off and my taste buds were back to normal. Nor did I notice how wonderful it was to just be a participant in everyday events like getting the paper off my driveway, having food on my plate, or coming home to a loving family. The mundane details I used to gloss over became vibrant with my senses and I absorbed it all:
When your happy like a fool
Let it take you over
When everything is out
You’ve got to take it in
Pre-cancer I was prone to making excuses for my circumstances or bad things that were happening in my life. A “woe is me approach” that left me playing defense on a daily basis. I sense that this attitude is very present in my and younger generations where we all feel entitled to something and our lives could be better “if only” another force would take pity on us:
We are god of stories
But please tell me
What’s there to complain about?
As I worked on myself through cancer I realized that I was wasting a ton of energy making up excuses and shifting blame when I could be out there focusing that same energy on things in line with my values, my passions. I can't express how much this shift of thinking will lift your life.
It's time to stop playing defense in your own life and CHOOSE to make your's a good one.